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Being gay is not a choice - accepting yourself as gay is (and for many, its the toughest choice to make)
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I don't believe it is a choice. I believe it is a combination of nature and nurture. I have never had the least bit of physical arousal from a woman--in fact, a picture of a naked woman will instantly deflate the hardest of erections for me.
I had a gorgeous female friend years ago, and she once climbed on my lap in a bar and started kissing me out of the blue one time. I had never been kissed like that in my life, but as much as my mind understood that she was the ultimate kissing partner for sheer technique, it was like my body was completely disconnected from the experience. And she had a gorgeous face and perfect figure, so if she couldn't inspire an erection, no woman could for me! After that we made out fairly regularly, but it was fun in a non-sexual way...I guess not fair to her, though, since she WAS turned on by it.
Of course, it sucked for me too, in a different way, because in all the years since then, I still haven't met anyone else who can kiss like she could.
Back to choice--as much as I don't think I ever made a choice, if science ever allowed us to change, or if a genie (lol I'm not superstitious and don't believe in genies) were to give me three wishes, I would never choose to NOT be gay. I don't know if that's because I am a defiant person, or if it would be a matter of rejecting part of who I am, but as much shit as we go through in society, I wouldn't really wish away my gayness.
I had a gorgeous female friend years ago, and she once climbed on my lap in a bar and started kissing me out of the blue one time. I had never been kissed like that in my life, but as much as my mind understood that she was the ultimate kissing partner for sheer technique, it was like my body was completely disconnected from the experience. And she had a gorgeous face and perfect figure, so if she couldn't inspire an erection, no woman could for me! After that we made out fairly regularly, but it was fun in a non-sexual way...I guess not fair to her, though, since she WAS turned on by it.
Of course, it sucked for me too, in a different way, because in all the years since then, I still haven't met anyone else who can kiss like she could.
Back to choice--as much as I don't think I ever made a choice, if science ever allowed us to change, or if a genie (lol I'm not superstitious and don't believe in genies) were to give me three wishes, I would never choose to NOT be gay. I don't know if that's because I am a defiant person, or if it would be a matter of rejecting part of who I am, but as much shit as we go through in society, I wouldn't really wish away my gayness.
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Sometimes the culture force us so that being gay becomes a choice or not
seconded - it's accepting it that takes the time!
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It is DEFINITELY NOT a choice! I have kissed girls and guys. When I kiss a girl, i felt nothing. No excitement! No Spark. Nothing! When I kiss a guy, I feel all of that. Even if I don't like a guy, I still feel a lil tingle!
Also I agree with everyone who says that people would have to be crazy to choose to be gay. I know I would never have chosen to be discriminated against, to be called names, to be hated for something that I simple couldn't control!
GAY IS NOT A CHOICE! IT IS WHO YOU ARE!!!
Also I agree with everyone who says that people would have to be crazy to choose to be gay. I know I would never have chosen to be discriminated against, to be called names, to be hated for something that I simple couldn't control!
GAY IS NOT A CHOICE! IT IS WHO YOU ARE!!!
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I hate when people say " not a conscious choice"
Well, it's impossible to make an unconscious choice because you are unaware of it. Choices can only be made in the conscious state because it's a decision. Meaning you have to be aware that you had made.
You can't decide something sleeping.
But to answer your question, No being gay isn't a choice. If it was a choice it wouldn't be such in issue. Because if people had the choice I'm sure most of us would choice not to be and save ourselves the headaches that come a long with it.
Well, it's impossible to make an unconscious choice because you are unaware of it. Choices can only be made in the conscious state because it's a decision. Meaning you have to be aware that you had made.
You can't decide something sleeping.
But to answer your question, No being gay isn't a choice. If it was a choice it wouldn't be such in issue. Because if people had the choice I'm sure most of us would choice not to be and save ourselves the headaches that come a long with it.
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Choice or Not
No it is definitely not a choice. I doubt that if I had had a choice that I would have chose it but that is what life handed me and I will make the best of it. So to all of those that say I can change if I want to I simply say NO WAY!:angry:
Great topic.:heart:
No it is definitely not a choice. I doubt that if I had had a choice that I would have chose it but that is what life handed me and I will make the best of it. So to all of those that say I can change if I want to I simply say NO WAY!:angry:
Great topic.:heart:
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Not a choice, but you can always choose how gay you want to be, hahaha, maybe...
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It's not a choice. You are born that way!
I think it is I dont believe its because we are born with it. I think it depends the environment you grew up in like had a mom or dad or both mom and dad or mom and mom or dad and dad or if you were abuse of any type.On a side note it maybe because we are born by it like for examples I hear orcas yes killer whales are gay some of them.
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The real question is: if being gay was a choice, would you choose to turn straight? I don't think I would, I am the way I am no matter how I got there, and I like it. But of course it's hard not to feel "wrong" for many possible reasons. My point is: don't let anybody tell you that you could be different, because it immediately means that you should.
