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[dargelos]

This topic is big in the UK papers right now coz a nurse took her own life and there was a royal wedding conection so it was the top story. What about the other 5600 suicides every year in this one small country? Those other deaths were all just as tragic. In all the newspaper coverage every single article missed the point ,the one point you need to learn about suicide, which is all about one simple word; listen.
Someone who has reached the stage when life is no longer worth living does not need your advice, your sympathy, your pity, your suggestions, your niceness, your views on right and wrong and definately not your fucking religion. Just needs you to listen without judgeing. Not as easy as it sounds so practice being a good listener and oneday your listening skills might save your friends life.

 

[ihno]

What a great starting post, Josh.

Hope it helps those people who are desperate. I lost a friend too who threw his life away back in 1995. It was such a waste.

 

[dargelos]

In case anyone missed it there is a complete list of helpline numbers at the start of this thread compiled by josh. Excellent work, well done also for the list of useless advice, all good examples of what to avoid saying.

 

[someonealone]

I lost my friend in November last year... But I am really thinking about joining him. I can't handle myself... no more.. not so long...

 

[josh_the_hot_boy]

You have to stay positive you don't want to end up like me. I created this thread so no one would end up like me. With out hope. Without light at the end of the tunnel.

 

[josh_the_hot_boy]

I'm only still here cause my bouts of depression have never lasted long enough for me to go through with it. This time I'm not so sure.

 

[someonealone]

Just wanted to say in this thread how much I love Jake and Whisper... Just wanted to say it... and say THANKS

 

[tonka]

Please remember boys that you are not alone. There are real people at gay heaven who will be your friends. We're all right here.

 

[josh_the_hot_boy]

I'm afraid for the first time I'm really afraid.

 

[havocs]

Josh, I know from some of your other posts you are going through some crazy stuff. You can and will make it through this, reach out to people for help, we won't let you go through this alone.

 

[josh_the_hot_boy]

Before I never wanted to hurt myself I just never saw another option but sometimes now my thoughts it's like I want to now and that scares me.

Like 5 weeks ago I was on the phone with this lady from a hotline number my family made me call and the lady was like it doesn't sound like you wanna hurt yourself and I was like I don't I just don't wanna feel this way anymore but now the past few days it's like I want to cause I can't be happy and be on this diet at the same time. It's just not possible. Ether I do the diet and it helps with the symptoms and I'm unhappy for 12 months or I forget the diet and be happy but risk being in pain again and going to the hospital again.

 

[havocs]

It is an important life decision/change Josh, but you summed it up in your comment. You can either adjust your life to your new diet and have less symptoms or ignore the diet and live in pain. You have to know that you are worth the effort, and that this is just something you have to learn to do. It will be hard at first, but everything is hard when it is new. This diet won't define who you are, it is just one aspect of you. I think you should adjust your diet so you can live a fuller life.

 

[josh_the_hot_boy]

And I am I've been on the diet for 3 weeks now.

 

[birenzik]

unfortunately there is no crisis center like that in Indonesia. Young people here need it too.

 

[xxbaxxx]

A lot of people need to know that they are loved, and that being different is a good thing.

 

[Bobstern]

A lot of people need to know that they are loved, and that being different is a good thing.

Unfortunately, suicidal people do not feel they are loved, or that they matter to their families. Wanting to hurt themselves means they do not even love themselves.

My father abused me when I was a child and I was a worthless useless child that was neglected. My hideout was at my grandmother. As a teen in school, I was bullied until I negotiated a safe passage, by helping their homework. As an adult I cannot trust people, so I have no meaningful personal relationships, and I do not allow them to happen.

The bright side is all this has made me very independent and resourceful, giving me professional success. It's the only thing I am good at.

What I'm trying to say is I learned to always look at the positive in myself. I accept the fact that I am a complete failure in the personal relationship department. What was done cannot be undone. Always take care of yourself. Alway love yourself, so do not hurt yourself, because the only person who will unconditionally love you during your entire lifespan is you.

 

[edkiko]

I agree

 

[josh_the_hot_boy]

Things have been getting difficult and lately I just haven't had the energy to care.

 

[Bobstern]

Things have been getting difficult and lately I just haven't had the energy to care.

I want you to at least summon enough energy to care about yourself.

 

[josh_the_hot_boy]

I always do but lately even my limits are being tested.