I don't know how to meet some one I live to a small carp town the nearest big city is 50 miles away and I don't have a car. no one would want to date me, I on desirability, have no car, could never take any one on a date and I don't look good. its just the way it is
Well, I have a car and I live in fairly big city, and I feel like there's no one for me either. Casual hook-ups are getting boring (they never really were that exciting as I had imagined) and trying to find someone is a bitch. But you got to try to focus on other things. If one thing in your life isn't the way you want, it always doesn't matter if you have somenthing else. Even a small new hobby can brighten up the day.
And you have pinpointed your broblem: no car. Can you plan how to get one? Bus, bublic traffic, rent a car etc. Underability? There's lot one can do for ones on good, and also make one more desiriable. You don't have to do all at once, just roll things little by litte, plan, adjust the plans etc. Gain achviements and goals you think are desirable, and increase your confidence, which is very attractive.
And if you have some broblem like 'idon't have this or I'm not like that etc' Can you change the situtation slowly? Do you even have to focus on things all the time? I mean I would be miserable if I would constantly think about that will I ever find that "someone". Atm too excited about my new hobby, guitar, and good friend soon coming back from Miami. Little things, but oh so good things
It doesn't matter what's missing
And if you feel like you are no good to anyone, can you start changing things slowly towards, that you feel you will be good for someone? Thinking about your broblems and wallowing in them, thinking like 'it's no use, I can't do that etc.' won't solve the broblems. You can either think about the solutions, or focus on somenthing else. Find somenthing positive, and if you don't find anything positive from your life, find out what could you do about that. What have you always wanted to do.
And often we forget how lucky we are. To some it's a broblem, that he can't decide what to choose to eat from store! While huge procentage of worlds people think that do they have anything to eat the whole day. Many people don't have the time to enjoy the sunshine, birds and other cheesy crap, cause survival takes all their time, and shortens their life span. There's always bright side to everything, and anyone - no matter how perfect his life seems - has their broblems and sorrow. It's all relative. And to your feelings, sometimes we all have these miserable days and periods. Hope you'll get out of yours soon, and some thing positive boosts up your mood:heart:
