What makes you sad today?

[W!nston]

You are a strong man Shelter. I'm sure your mother is a strong woman. She will do fine.

Keep us posted on her progress when you can.

Sniff ♥

 

[Lamicheval]

All the best for your mom, Shelter, and for you too! I hope everything gets well again! :big hug:

My sad moment on Friday was a really hot xtube clip. That sounds crazy? For sure, you are right.

I saw the clip "super japan ming". If you want to see it too, please follow the link:

http://refhide.com/?http://www.xtube.com/watch.php?v=ZNIv7-C145-

I read the comments about it and there was one, that cooled me down at once: This actor, Koh Masaki, is dead already. In first I thought, it has been a very strange joke, but I searched for Koh Masaki and found the information is right.

You made me happy with your talent, Koh Masaki! And I wish you will be happy too, where ever you are! :x

 

[Whisper]

Watching , waiting, fearing and searching signs without even meaning to do so... One of my closest friends is diagnosed with Huntington's disease and he seems to have some more aggressive form of it. He is only 23 years old and most likely he wont live over 40. This all makes my Parkinson's disease feel much less serious and after all I was "already" 30 when I got diagnosed. Breaks my heart...

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From Wikipedia:

Huntington's disease (HD) is a neurodegenerative genetic disorder that affects muscle coordination and leads to cognitive decline and behavioral symptoms.

Parkinson's disease (PD also known as idiopathic or primary parkinsonism, hypokinetic rigid syndrome/HRS, or paralysis agitans) is a degenerative disorder of the central nervous system.

 

[peter123]

.....have to be concerned with every day..........and have to manage it.... also for myself...

 

[Whisper]

.....have to be concerned with every day..........and have to manage it.... also for myself...

Are you alright, Peter?

 

[theseeker]

Mine's probably not as serious as anyone else on this thread, but I've been told that from their experience, stuff like (gay) love doesn't exist at all, at least not over here. Everyone's only concerned with just finding someone to fuck and nothing else. Even if relationships do form, it's only temporary thing...... they'll always fail either because of societal pressures, or someone eventually finds someone hotter to be with.

Maybe that's why the conservative straights here hate us so much...... They look at the gay community and all they see is a fuckfest....

 

[W!nston]

@theseeker:

There is only love. It's not Str8 love or Gay Love or Bi love. There is only love.

Who ever told you 'love' doesn't exist is wrong. Just because they have yet to find love, feel love or know love doesn't mean it doesn't exist. Take a good look at who is telling you this. It sounds like they have had a lot of rejection and heartache.

Love isn't guaranteed for any of us. We must be willing to work at it. Lust is easy. Love demands some commitment, compromise and sacrifice. Most people who say love doesn't exist aren't willing to work for it. They think it's like some magic spell. It's not. It's a lot of work but in the long, long run it is the most precious thing in life. You can't take anything with you except the love in your life.

Don't give up looking. Don't be afraid to commit and work for love.

 

[peter123]

Are you alright, Peter?

Thanks, yes so far I am

 

[haiducii]

@theseeker: Good things happen when you don’t give up

 

[theseeker]

Love isn't guaranteed for any of us. We must be willing to work at it. Lust is easy. Love demands some commitment, compromise and sacrifice. Most people who say love doesn't exist aren't willing to work for it. They think it's like some magic spell. It's not. It's a lot of work but in the long, long run it is the most precious thing in life. You can't take anything with you except the love in your life.

Don't give up looking. Don't be afraid to commit and work for love.

But what about those who work so hard for it, then end up realizing that the one they have worked so hard for has cheated on them, and/or doesn't care at all?

 

[W!nston]

But what about those who work so hard for it, then end up realizing that the one they have worked so hard for has cheated on them, and/or doesn't care at all?

I had a friend who lived in Singapore. He was Gay and very deep in the closet.

You sound like a remarkably smart and resourceful person. I have a feeling you will find happiness someday.

Relationships are challenging. It sounds like you are willing to give love as many chances as needed to find a good man. When you find him remember all the lessons you've learned.

Don't focus all your attention on his physical appearance. That is only the superficial part of him. Look deeper. It takes some time to know if he is the right one. Be willing to commit the time it takes and remember 'compromise and sacrifice' are a large part of making it work. If someone breaks your trust you should be open to the idea of giving them a second or third chance. It may take that kind of commitment. If you can't forgive then you should forget and move on.

In the meantime have fun looking around for him. Save yourself for the right guy. If you gotta have sex before you know then stick with oral sex. Save the anal for the long term (if ever).

You'll do fine my friend

Sniffit

 

[ritsuka]

My partner of seven years died suddenly last month. Every day now there are new reminders that he and the life we shared together are gone, completely and forever. I was dependent on him financially, and his family inherits his estate...so having to forge a totally different and new life, while living with the ghosts of our old one, it's hard.

 

[Shelter]

My partner of seven years died suddenly last month. Every day now there are new reminders that he and the life we shared together are gone, completely and forever. I was dependent on him financially, and his family inherits his estate...so having to forge a totally different and new life, while living with the ghosts of our old one, it's hard.

Hello Ritsuka, it's really hard what you are telling here.

But at first my deepest condolences to the death of you long-term partner. And obviously he has had a family which is not very friendly to you.

And that's what I think you have to do if you are going into a long-term relationship: a testament before a certifying notary. My BF and myself we are younger people but we are together since now 10 years (I met him when I was 17) and two years ago we have done it. And our respective parents have encouraged us to do that.

 

[W!nston]

My partner of seven years died suddenly last month. Every day now there are new reminders that he and the life we shared together are gone, completely and forever. I was dependent on him financially, and his family inherits his estate...so having to forge a totally different and new life, while living with the ghosts of our old one, it's hard.

The inheritance rights of a lawful spouse are something Str8 people take for granted. We Gay couples have no lawful inheritance rights. The family of a Gay partner can file suit against any will that leaves a Gay partner the estate and they can win that lawsuit in court.

In America we are slowly gaining Gay Marriage equality. Hopefully that trend will echo throughout the Western democracies. I don't know where you live ritsuka but one day Gay men in your situation may legally and rightfully inherit a Gay spouse's estate.

If you live in one of the countries like Russia, China, or any Muslim state I'm afraid that day may never come.

Your story saddens me today also.

Good luck friend,

Sniff

 

[Shelter]

The inheritance rights of a lawful spouse are something Str8 people take for granted. We Gay couples have no lawful inheritance rights. The family of a Gay partner can file suit against any will that leaves a Gay partner the estate and they can win that lawsuit in court.
Sniff

Hi Sniff it will be difficult for me but I must disagree with you. At first you have totally right that in some or better in many countries of our world Gay Couples will have no inheritance rights. And that sure will be too in the modern, receptive, christian, all-people-loving USA!

But my homecountry gives us as well the inheritance rights if they are outspoken in front of a civil law notary. So in this country we have laws, which will give us possibilities you never will find in other countries. Germany is not the Mecca for Gays - certainly not! But what I can read here so very often - honestly I'm happy to live in this country!

 

[Shelter]

The illness of my mom, stress in my job all that leads to a bad and ugly controversial with my BF some days ago. I know it was was my fault. We have had many controversials during our partnership in the last years - but now one was so fierce like this one. And now?

My boyfriend, which I really love from deep of the bottom of my heart, is in a pissy mood now. He is full of anger and all what I do he pushed me away. I've insulted him badly.

I'll try so much to make peace but he is tight-lipped. I'll wait totally naked when he is coming home - but he will not see me and didn't recognize me.

BOYS WHAT CAN I DO???? Please give me an advice. I'm really unhappy in the moment, and once more I know that it was my fault not his!!!!

 

[bigsal]

The illness of my mom, stress in my job all that leads to a bad and ugly controversial with my BF some days ago. I know it was was my fault. We have had many controversials during our partnership in the last years - but now one was so fierce like this one. And now?

My boyfriend, which I really love from deep of the bottom of my heart, is in a pissy mood now. He is full of anger and all what I do he pushed me away. I've insulted him badly.

I'll try so much to make peace but he is tight-lipped. I'll wait totally naked when he is coming home - but he will not see me and didn't recognize me.

BOYS WHAT CAN I DO???? Please give me an advice. I'm really unhappy in the moment, and once more I know that it was my fault not his!!!!

The ugly moment who you're going through can lead to irrational behavior, and to say things that do not really you think.

I do not know the cause of the quarrel with your boyfriend, but simply tries to apologize to him, completely opening your heart and you share with he the current difficulties.

Ask him for help. In this time you need the support of all your loved ones.

 

[dargelos]

Love isn't free. The good times are better than anything else in the world but sometimes you have to pay the price in tears. If you didnt love him it wouldnt hurt so much, since you do it hurts like hell when he turns away from you. The only thing you're both guilty of is being human beings. A life without peaks and troughs is a vanilla life of beige clothes and easy listening music. That's not what I call living. I've lived through so many of these troughs of despair, at the time I might have felt like, no, I can't tell you how bad it felt. We have survived, me and my sweetheart, each time our love has gone wrong it has come right back again. When your love comes back it may come back bruised but it will be tougher.

 

[ritsuka]

Thank you Shelter and Sniffit, I appreciate your condolences. It is really difficult, because yes, if we were straight we would probably have been married, and I wouldn't have lost everything. When you share your life completely with someone and then suddenly people come and identify everything as "family property" as if he wasn't your family too, as if you're just some inconvenience that can be brushed aside...it really hurts. All I can do is accept what they find it in their hearts to give me, which is a little. Though my partner was older, I'm only 30 and wasn't prepared for this, at all. In the future I will make sure to have that security in place, and I wish the same for all gay couples in the world.

 

[W!nston]

The illness of my mom, stress in my job all that leads to a bad and ugly controversial with my BF some days ago. I know it was was my fault. We have had many controversials during our partnership in the last years - but now one was so fierce like this one. And now?

My boyfriend, which I really love from deep of the bottom of my heart, is in a pissy mood now. He is full of anger and all what I do he pushed me away. I've insulted him badly.

I'll try so much to make peace but he is tight-lipped. I'll wait totally naked when he is coming home - but he will not see me and didn't recognize me.

BOYS WHAT CAN I DO???? Please give me an advice. I'm really unhappy in the moment, and once more I know that it was my fault not his!!!!

I'm sorry to hear about the quarrel, fight, argument, 'battle royale' between you and your boyfriend, husband, spouse. I don't need to know the particulars.

You are under great stress and that has brought out more emotions than usual. Your aggravated state of emotions has brought out more emotions than usual for your spouse as well. You lashed out and he lashed out. A great clash of emotions.

Marriages and relationships are hard work. These things happen. It's how you put the pieces back together that counts. Don't expect it to blow over in one night. It will take time.

I believe you are a strong man. I think your partner saw the strength you have. That is probably one of the reasons he was drawn to you. You are feeling weak and helpless during this time of family crisis. He senses that change. He (as everyone else does) wants a strong partner.

You need to pull yourself together and behave more like the strong man you are. That's what your mom would do in your shoes. Be strong. Stop falling to pieces. Tell your partner you apologize for losing some control and tell him you need him to be strong for the two of you while you work through this crisis. Show him you are strong by cooking his favorite meal or writing him a poem.

Sex is important but don't push it. Don't throw yourself at him because that looks weak. Wait for him to want it then have the best make-up sex ever!

If all this fails don't worry. It takes time for emotions to calm. Be patient. Smile and try to find the brightside of life. Watch a funny movie or find some funny pics here and share them with him. Look in the Daily Humor section for some funny pics. cammikun posts a lot of funny pics and so does Haiduci.

Relax buddy. Everything will be okay...

Sniff