When and how was your "Coming Out"?

[Jordy88]

That would be the way to do it!

 

[jguyfan]

Haven't done it yet.

 

[bimyself1]

The worst, I am completely distant away from my family, like we don't anymore, my dad disowned me, my mom is ashamed of me, my cousins, make jokes about it, so I'm the joke/disgrace of the family even though, there are lesbians in the family, but because I'm gay, I get all the backlash. But least I don't have that monkey on my back anymore, and can be free.

 

[Rainbowed Fairy]

My Coming out story

My name is Kerry and I am 22 years old and soon to be 23, as of December 22. I always enjoyed people, may be that was my problem. I didn't have friends in the neighborhood, well actually I haven't had a friend ever in my whole life I can really talk to and feel whole around. When I was 10 years old I thought there was a kid in my 3rd Grade class who invited me over his house but being there then for 5min. him and his brother beat me up for 45min. calling me a F***ing Four Eyed F***** who didn't deserve to live. From that point on I wore contact lenses because I didn't want to be known as a four eyed queer. It was funny but when I hung out with men older (like dad ages) I got hard especially if they had a chubbiness to them. I came out to my parents when I was 12 but they didn't believe me and so for 6years I tried telling them I am and no matter how many times they told me I wasn't it hurt me emotionally. I come from a Christian family where they believe GOD hates gays, but here I am 22years old and my parents finally have come to the acceptance I am gay. I still have no friends. But to all you people out there in this world who feel like the world will hate you because you love differently, just remember they love differently too. I may've not liked what happen to me when I was 18 and got raped by someone close to me, and chose to never ever show my naked body to anyone forever I know I will find someone who I can show it to and never be afraid. Remember hunny, you were born this way and you never chose what you are because if you did, you would have chose to get AIDS, get your parents angry with you, and have all of society cut you off. It took me 6 years to prove to my family it's not a choice, and here I am 22 and loving me for me and my parents could careless.


Take Care Of Yourself.

 

[akadoosian]

13 years ago, it was awful and I lost a lot of friends and it caused me so much problem. But I am happy I did it.

 

[KCinLA]

Wish I had the balls to do a video !

Kevin

 

[florens]

hm...

Maybe it's hard for someone to believe that in some countries being gay is like a big f punishment, but it's real. As a resident of one of the most gay unfriendly countries, must say that one of the biggest moments for me wen I told my sister, very spontaneously, in a club, we were both a bit drunk that night...All I can say is that I'm very fortunate to have her as a sister!!! I'm 27 now, and that was 2 mounts ago...

 

[yank]

My coming out was pretty simple but i still look back on it really fondly. I was 15 when i first told someone. The first person i told was a friend who came out as bi (but isnt now), we were in a small green area in my town and i told him that i needed to tell him something. When i told him, his response was simply "So?". I know it sounds rude but i think he said it to calm me down cus i was so nervous that i didnt just tell him....i shouted it at him
Two years later after i had completed school i decided to tell my parents, i was so nervous i was involuntarily rocking back and forth in the armchair! I told them i was bi (at the time i thought i was, no offence ladies but turns out im definitely not) and my dad replied "WHAT?!" I was scared but i still managed to say it again....my mom asked if i was ok and my dad was actually really cool about it too. Turned out he only said "WHAT?!" cus he had just woken up and didnt hear me! :L
Its a happy story and i like sharing it, i mean no disrespect to anyone but, people need to hear more of the happy coming out stories. But i thank everyone whos been sharing there stories so far be their stories happy or sad its nice that so many people have shared some really personal things.

 

[aminirikia]

it's really amazing reading about the experiences of the people here in the forum, some
of your stories had had a deep impact with me. So here I go with my own:

The first time I came out to someone was in the middle of class to my best friend,
we were in physics class, so we were passing between us notes to
pass on the day (I am not a bad student but God I hated physics).
Back in highschool I had the greatest crush in a friend
(wich we will call Tony, like the tiger), and he used to sit
right beside me, so I was watching him all day long
and in a rush of adolescent passion, or hormones, I wrote in
the paper that I was pretty sure that not only was
I gay, but also deeply inlove with Tony. We were writing
in and exaggerated and pompus manner (we were so bored)
and so my confesion sounded absurd and funny. My best friend
did something long the lines of :rofl: . I looked at him and told
that I wasn't joking. He stopped laughing and looked right at me
then he made this ... squeal or something, a really high pitched noise
and made a face of "OhmygodIcan'tbelievethis". We didn't spoke for the
rest of the schoolday. At the exit he practically grabbed me and started
to ask a million things, he was really cool and I am really happy he was
the first person I came out to. With the help of my best friend I was out
of the closet before the end of the year, except for my parents, I graduated
in 2009 and I still can't find the courage to come out to them. I'm hoping
that I will be honest with them this year, when I come back home for
the Christmas vacations. I'm sure they won't have a problem with it
but every time I try to tell them I just get stuck and can't.
This year I'm going to tell them. Or get drunk and tell them.
Hopefully it won't come to that, and I will pass Christmas with my family
knowing that I am quite gay. Also homosexual.

 

[Sinnerr]

Being drunk and telling any important thing to your parents is not good idea I thing. Never drink alcohol because you are stressed or got any problems. Alcohol doesn't solve problems.

 

[heyisthis4real]

I came out when I was born

 

[Sinnerr]

I came out when I was born

well and when did you tell your family and your frineds that you're gay?

 

[venusnole]

mine wasn't eventful at all haha, like that vid...every1 was cool with it

 

[logan222]

The worst, I am completely distant away from my family, like we don't anymore, my dad disowned me, my mom is ashamed of me, my cousins, make jokes about it, so I'm the joke/disgrace of the family even though, there are lesbians in the family, but because I'm gay, I get all the backlash. But least I don't have that monkey on my back anymore, and can be free.

I'm still in the closet because I'm about 105% sure that this would be exactly what would happen if I did this. The problem is that I love my family to death. They really are great people, but they weren't raised to accept non-hetersexuality. I've left hints to my family that perhaps I may not be into woman. For example, I'm 22, moderately attractive and academically successful, but have somehow never had a girlfriend. However, my parents leave hints at how they would never accept a gay son. When we watch a news story about something involving gay men, my parents never forget to mention how wrong and immoral gay men are...and I always sink in shame. Once, I told a story to my dad about our old hometown in Mexico, where supposedly, back in the day, the entire town gathered around and buried a gay couple alive just because they were gay, my dad told me that the gay guys deserved it. It literally crushed my heart in so many ways. It's not my dad's fault that he's so intolerant. That's how he was raised. I love my parents too much to just lose them from one night to the next. I need more time.

It's taken me so many years to accept my own sexuality. For my parents to accept it, that's just a different story...and I couldn't bare losing them so early on.

 

[Sinnerr]

to logan222:
you can let them be and live your life. or you can say it and so give them chance to accept it. maybe they never knowed anybody who is gay. you say you love them so much. if they love you same as you love them they could accept it ... slowly. maybe not.

if you are sure they aren't able to accept it just live your life without them ... i think it's better than taking soul torture. you have to be fair to yourself - i think it's most important think in life

why do you love them to death? do they love you? do they love you as you are or as they want you to be? i'm really not sure that it's not their fault that they are intolerant, of course they are victims of bigot religion... is it your fault that you like boys? i'm sure it's not!

So good luck and be strong ;-)

 

[rheezhaa]

i dont want to be like this really. i want to get married and have a child.should i stay in the closet and never came out??

 

[gb2000ie]

i dont want to be like this really. i want to get married and have a child.should i stay in the closet and never came out??

I used to think that too.

I tried to stay in the closet - turns out lying is really self-destructive, and that honesty is wonderfully liberating. I had to hit a very low low before I was ready to come to terms with who I really was, but I've certainly never regretted coming out.

B.

 

[aminirikia]

Being drunk and telling any important thing to your parents is not good idea I thing. Never drink alcohol because you are stressed or got any problems. Alcohol doesn't solve problems.

In the case that you are refering to my post then:

You are completely right, and I meant that as a joke!
I've never been drunk before!
Alcohol is certainly not my way of dealing with stress.

Also, I don't think coming out to my parents is a problem.
It's just a really intimidating step. My courage won't come
from alcohol or other substances, but from the support of my friends!

If your post wasn't directed to my then ignore this and think of it
as the ramblings of a madman :thumbs up:

 

[Sinnerr]

to aminirikia: thats fine, i suspected that it wasn't meaned seriously but i wasn't sure.

to rheezhaa: why you don't want to be like this (and what is it "this", what it means ?) ?

 

[jhtw]

I was born with a lady inside of me lol