Woo! I just came out to my best friend, who is straight. This is the first time I have ever told anyone in my personal life, so this is a HUGE step for me! I was really worried about how he'd react, but he was totally cool with it! He said he's got my back. I feel SO relieved and now I feel more confident to tell others. I have a few other close friends I need to tell and then my sisters...THEN (dun...dun...dun) my parents!
You guys were totally right! It feels so much better after telling one of your loved ones. Well, maybe this time because he was supportive. He also told me he was bi-curious, but I have a funny feeling he was just saying it to make me feel a bit better about my long-awaited confession.
Oh, and another thing is that there are a LOT more gay/bi people that I thought. My friend and I noticed that as I talked. He said that he's starting to realize that there's just so many people that are slowly coming out. Well, yeah, we're 22, and I think this is a popular age for people who've been closeted to "come out."
Update! My friend is starting to give me odd messages now that I'm out to him. He's completely cool with my being gay and he's been really supportive, but he's mentioning his bicuriosity more and more to me, and he mentioned that he thinks he could fall in love with another man. The way he was saying things, it sounds like he might be implying that he's interested in me. I used to have a huge crush on him earlier. In fact, we even experimented with each other during college (making out, touching, etc.), but it was just us being experimental. He told me that when we kissed, it was his very first kiss and that he never thought he'd enjoy a kiss with another man, but he did. I told him that I was just an empty slate. Kissing anyone would have felt great for him, but he didn't seem to accept that. When we fooled around during our experimental college days, he seemed opposed to sucking dick or anything "too gay," so I am sure that he just enjoyed what we did because I was an empty slate body for him and he's never been with anyone before. I was his first kiss, and he's never had a kiss with anyone else (despite the fact that he's super hot). The thing is that he's incredibly shy AND picky! lol
I really don't want to re-have feelings for him because it was really hard for me to get over him in the first place. Even if he wants to get experimental again, I don't want to start a relationship with my best friend, know that it'll eventually end because he's not really into men, and then lose my utmost closest friend of all time. I am torn because he's a really great guy and very good-looking, and I've been dying to have a boyfriend...but at the same time, I know it's not worth it with my straight, yet bicurious, best friend. :no:
Also, he's a good-looking guy that's never had a girlfriend, like me. When I'm openly-gay (which might be sooner than anticipated), I hope he doesn't feel uncomfortable hanging out with me. Some people already think we're gay for each other, and I don't want him to feel uncomfortable about this whole situation. He told me that he doesn't care what people think of him and that he won't ever stop being my friend for a stupid reason like that, but what if I'm the one driving all the girls away from him (because I make them think that he's gay)? I don't want to be that person. I really want him to be happy, and I can't help but feel responsible for luring him with being the only person he's been with.
Any advice, guys?
ming is pretty difficult now.
